This is off-topic but has become THE topic for me recently as a result of some heartbreaking events I have observed and tried to ameliorate. So excuse the soapbox schtick and oratory but attend. This is important. More important than anything else.
IGNORE THIS AT YOUR PERIL (really)
Everyone has experienced it at one time or another, some more than others.
My shoulder sometimes stays wet for days from the tears or the wounded or dying. And I know myself personally and deeply how it feels, how it hurts.
We are all perps, some more than others. But the pain and personal damage we cause must finally be called out, for this has become a very discourteous and dangerous practice in this age without feeling or conscience. Yes, this internet age.
An age of depersonalization, “friending” and “liking.” How we have up ended and eviscerated these old vital verities. It does not bode well for the human race or the planet to have gutted what really matters and replaced them with vacuities, farces and frauds.
An era in which acknowledgement and response are either balm or, if withheld, spell “you don’t exist, you are nothing, or less.”
We all get tons of unsolicited junk email and texts. Delete, delete, delete. There is nothing wrong with that, it’s essential to one’s mental health and survival to sweep the infectious communications crap out of our lives.
But I have come to the conclusion that to ignore a friend’s or former associate’s email or text is tantamount to flushing them down the toilet, particularly those emails and texts in which they are reaching out for help or encouragement in a tough time.
Yeah, we may not have a solution or answer to what troubles them, what the problem is consuming them, we probably don’t, and that makes us uncomfortable, or worse we decide they don’t “matter” anymore, aren’t players,not in the game anymore and can’t help us!
Particularly execrable–see the Inferno on that attitude.
But if we are half-way human we can at the very least commiserate, show we care and that’s the important thing. Compassion, empathy. Comforting, encouragement.
I’m convinced there’s an especially hot tormenting place in hell for people who ignore personal cries from the heart from others.
“Love one another as I have loved you.”
It is our responsibility as human beings to care for one another. Ignoring someone we have known who has reached out to us and shared his or her troubles, whether by email, text or voice mail, someone we in the past befriended or worked with, that is, someone we had a relationship with, is a deliberate act of trying to snuff them out, kill them emotionally, and it exponentially increases their pain and confusion.
To ignore someone is the equivalent of inflicting incredible lasting damage to them. There is no excuse for it, forget how busy we all are.We are NOT that busy. We are shamefully self-absorbed, selfish.
If we lose our capacity for compassion, we are all lost.